From as far back as I can remember anytime I cried (rather from punishment or getting hurt) my dad’s first statement to me was “Go wash your face” He wanted me to go in the bathroom to put water on my face to try to remove any hint that I had been crying.
As I grew up I realized this was not for me it was for his image. He did not want anyone around us to think he caused me to cry for whatever reason.
About 3 years ago I went to see my dad before I moved to the east cost. There was a situation that my dad yelled at me in public. I got upset and walked away. When I returned I was still upset and he said his famous words “Go Wash Your Face” At that moment it hit me “No I don’t want to wash my face” Not that I want to make a big scene. But no I am not going to go turn into this perfect daughter for your image.
Especially because we don’t have a perfect relationship and I I am tired of portraying something that is not true. Plus at the time I was 47 years ago and I needed to stand my ground and let my dad know he no longer controls me. I will always be respectful to him because he is my dad. But I am no longer a 12 year old girl so worried I will get punished for “talking back”
I realize that there are times you do need to wash your face. But it is now my decision when I was my face. It is no longer in my dad’s control
To GOD Be The GLORY. Take Care. Much LOVE.
